Who are you spending the most time with?
Who are you spending the most time with?
XIX.) You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with
From listening to a number of excellent Podcasts this past year, one - The Tim Ferriss Show; http://fourhourworkweek.com/podcast/, a few of his lessons stuck with me in particular.
My biggest take away (in my own words) - ***"You are basically the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with" ***. In other words, those you spend the most time with, influence you the most. Choose wisely.
To flesh it out even more: Meaning My biggest takeaways/interpretations.
If there are certain goals you want to achieve in life and you are not quite there in some areas but doing great in other areas, take a look at the people you surround yourself with.
5 points to consider:
1- Are the people you spend the most time with in healthy relationships? IE - a good marriage/partnership, surrounded by friends that bring out the best in them.
2- Are the people you surround yourself with successful? This could be interpreted in a number of ways, so here are a few examples: Do the people you surround yourself with have financial security to a level they are good with? Are they living a lifestyle they find satisfaction and fulfillment in? Are they in a career they love or at least working on projects that they are really passionate about?
3- Do the people you surround yourself with work on themselves? IE - physical conditioning, spiritual and mental well-being, intellectual curiosity.
4 - Are the the people you surround yourself with, kind? IE -How forgiving are they of themselves? How forgiving are they of others? Do they look for the best in themselves and others?
5- Do you see yourself in the people you surround yourself with? Do you want to see yourself in them? Do you like what you see?
This is something (meaning the people I surround myself with) I'm going to pay very close attention to and be very pro-active with in 2019 (and beyond), I invite you to do the same.
If you like this post, check out a post of mine with the same theme, but more tailored to students.
***For the record Tim Ferriss would be the first to tell you he is not the original founder of this idea/rule! He actually discovered this concept as a teenager. https://www.businessinsider.com/tim-ferriss-average-of-five-people-2017-1
I'm presuming, based on the context of the article, that Tim Ferriss originally read it in one of Tony Robbins' books (one of the most pre-eminent self-help gurus in the world, today). And Tony Robbins learned of this rule through his mentor; motivational speaker and entrepreneur, Jim Rohn***.
Peace & Love
-JPJ